As a relatively new leader in singles ministry, I’ve encountered an unwritten rule that goes something like this:

Unless you are married (happily or otherwise) and regardless of your spiritual depth, scriptural knowledge or Christian experience, your leadership in ministry will be suspect. Thank you for your willingness, but please get married first, then reapply for the leadership position. And should you be divorced or subsequently get a divorce, any previously demonstrated depth, knowledge, and experience immediately disappears. Per the rules of the game of Monopoly, do not pass “Go.” Do not collect $200. Go directly to church jail. You are no longer qualified.

Okay, I’m exaggerating a bit. But not much.

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