Let all things be done decently and in order. (I Corinthians 14:40, NKJV)

Okay, let’s get this out in the open from the start. Yes, guys have lists. Gals have lists. Everyone has lists — or maybe they should.

Recently, a lonely and distressed young lady shared her relationship frustration with me. When I asked what type of guy she was looking for, she said, “I don’t know, but I’ll know him when I see him.” To me, that’s like aimlessly driving around Florida in search of Yellowstone Park. If I want to see Yellowstone, wouldn’t I be better off loading it into my GPS, researching the fastest way to get there, and then hitting the road? Of course! So why wouldn’t I do the same with my relationship pursuits?

Having a list of relational preferences is not bad in and of itself. Whether we admit it or not, we all have preferences of some sort. For example a tall person may prefer someone who is also tall. A health nut may prefer another health nut. A golfer may prefer someone who golfs. No, this doesn’t mean everyone should find an identical clone. These are just examples to demonstrate that having (and writing down) your personal relationship preferences isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

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